Have you had those situations where something goes from bad
to worse? There have been times when the
more I try to rectify something I’ve bungled, the worse it got.
Imagine the scene… a weaving loom containing multiple colors
of threads that intertwine to make a beautiful tapestry of fabric. A new employee is seated at the loom.
Above her, the sign reads:
As she works one of the threads gets tangled. She tries her best to get the thread straightened
out and back into place, but instead other threads become engaged in the tangle
and she has a mess!
Finally deciding
that she is not able to fix the situation, she calls the supervisor. Upon arriving, the supervisor asks if she saw
the sign above? Yes, she replied with
shame. Why didn’t you follow the
instruction? She said, “I thought I
could figure it out on my own.”
How often are the circumstances of our lives like this?
Now, imagine this… someone offends us…there is one small
tangle in our complex matrix of relationships.
Instead of calling the supervisor to help us deal with the issue when it
only involves one person…one thread…we share our offense with another person. That person doesn’t know how to help you, so
they involve another person. Now there
are four threads involved in what was at first a simple situation.
A
problem often starts with a small tangle and has a way of escalating into a
complex tangled mess. This makes me
think about the tangled web of relationships that we navigate every day. The
family I grew up in fought in silence, so I did not learn the skills necessary
to resolve even simple conflicts.
Are you seeking advice about
relationships from the one who knows them best?
1 comment:
What? I don't get to write pithy emails to express my displeasure??? Loll
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